Memories of Alcohol
"I drank for happiness and became unhappy. I drank for joy and became miserable. I drank for sociability and became argumentative. I drank for sophistication and became obnoxious. I drank for friendship and made enemies. I drank for sleep and woke up tired. I drank for strength and felt weak. I drank for relaxation and got the shakes. I drank for courage and became afraid. I drank for confidence and became doubtful. I drank to make conversation easier and slurred my speech. I drank to feel heavenly and ended up feeling like hell."- Author Unknown
lcohol is one of our most insidious social pastimes. It is something that we have culturally incorporated into our lives, if we win we drink, if we lose we drink, if we are sad we drink, if we are happy we drink, when someone is born we drink and when someone dies we drink.
However when this takes a stranglehold of you, then it starts to affect every area of your life, physcially, mentally, emotionally, socially and financially. It slowly erodes the essences of who we are and what we represent becomes distorted.
So what can we do, like everything there is no single remedy that can cure us. For some it is giving up cold turkey, for some counselling, some a detox and some have had good results with the product N-Acetly cysteine which has shown some promise.
Sorry to be a party popper but alcohol is like rust and often goes to the weakest spot. i recommend 1-2 standard drinks per day per session and ensure you have some free alcohol days. Example would be drink Friday and Saturday (still 2 standard drinks) and have the rest of the week off.
Your brain, liver, skin, heart, family and friends will thank you.
Children Learn What They Live
by Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte
This book was given to me and on first impressions I was not one bit impressed. Then I started to read it and found the words mesmerising, I would read a sentence and ponder on it for minutes to hours to even days. It forces you to evaluate yourself on a deeper level. It goes beyond the surface to look at how we live our lives and the impact on others. Rather than waffle on, I will let Stephanie do the talking. This is an extract from her work
“Mostly we live in a heightened state of insatiability, wanting what we haven’t got, forgetting and discarding what we already have. Brittle, fragile relationships are normal, with each person watching their own back, rather than the face of the person they most want to love and be loved by.
Caring about people lovingly and well demands fidelity. ‘Whoever is faithful in a very little way, is faithful also in much,’ said St Luke.
To bring fidelity to life – taking on what it means to choose to be consistent, persistent, trustworthy, committed, truthful, loving, and delicate in your discernment between what matters and what does not – you need to be capable of vigilance; of staying awake to the subtlety of what happens between you and other people. This means caring about details as well as the big picture. It means learning that what may be a small thing to you may carry much greater meaning for someone else. Your own view may not change as you discover this, but it is usually possible to express your respect for a different view and to take this as an opportunity to deepen your knowledge of that person. Because fidelity also asks that you care about other people and yourself equally and simultaneously.
This is not so easy. It involves being ‘transparent’ to your own self-deceptions; taking responsibility for what your needs are; facing what is unpalatable about your intentions or behaviour. It involves developing the strength and clarity of mind to distinguish between intention and action, knowing that what you desire and how you act may sometimes need to be two quite different things.
It means acknowledging that the way you feel about someone may sometimes ask something difficult of you. It may mean, in thinking about yourself and those you love, that you must look inward sometimes, as well as outwards. It means taking stock often, and pausing.”
Wishing you health of mind, body and soul. Lots of love and light. Jacqui
Lets give Peace a chance - wishing you all a Merry festive period & welcome a harmonious New Year 2017